Birth order...

I'm not going to go into details, but we have started the long process of adopting an older child. We've been wanting to do this for a long time. We feel that this is the right time to at least begin. So, we chose the adoption organization and put in our application. We passed the review committee. So, we went and met with the director of the Waiting Child Program today. The reason I titled this post birth order is that this is one thing we discussed that I hadn't thought about. There have been studies that mention that there are concerns of what effect disrupting birth order by adopting can have on the birth children. Hmmm...something to ponder. If we adopt an older child, that means Connor's place as first born has been disrupted...how can we counter-act that or take care that it will not be detrimental. One suggestion was to really think about the age of the new child...think about the upper end of our limit...as far as we feel comfortable from Connor's age. Maybe that's another reason that Jade...a child we have our eyes on...caught Trey's heart before I even had a chance to look at any profiles online. Of course, we are a LONG ways from actually really, seriously looking at profiles, but our prayer is that God will show us in His time who our new child is or will be and it will be the perfect timing. We never seem to raelly do things by the book! :)